I think there is something that we, the human race, need to acknowledge about our behaviour.
Sometimes we act like douchebags and this upsets others. They may retaliate which upsets us and so starts a viscous cycle of pain and upset that results in the breakdown of a relationship.
I would like to discuss this further, because simply suggesting to we all stop being douchebags won’t suffice. As humans, change doesn’t seem to agree with us.
So if someone upsets us why don’t we be honest and tell them (without, like, being aggressive towards them)? They may have not have realised, apologise and the process of forgiveness can start. If they meant to hurt you, then why? Why did they want to hurt you? Is it a simple open and shut case? I doubt it! Getting to the route of upset might allow for forgiveness but it is not easy.
Let’s be clear, in my mind forgiveness is not about glossing over, condoning or forgetting an offense. It is a conscience act of love and mercy to empower and free the forgiver from anger and pain. It is the acknowledgement that forgiver has suffered pain but that they will not let it define them. It is not easy to do and is not (always) given because someone deserves it! But to rebuild a relationship someone always has to say sorry but everyone wants the other party to go first.
So I suggest we take baby steps to judge each other less, show a little grace to one another and love each other more.
1. Definition for Forgiveness – http://www.allaboutgod.com/definition-for-forgiveness-faq.htm
2. Forgiveness definition – http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness/definition